There is a difference between faith & wishing. Faith sees, feels, knows, talks about, envisions, before it is a reality. Faith comes by hearing. Faith simply is.
Romans 10:17 (KJV) – So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.
Hebrews 11:1 (KJV) – Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
I recently posted the above quote to my social media outlets. I began thinking about faith. About our successes, as well as things we are still standing in faith to see come to pass. I began to think on our greatest success thus far in regards to faith. It was an easy example, our children.
It all began in 2001-2002. Newly married, a new business and growing in our walk with the Lord. As we were aggressively expanding and growing our new business, we found ourselves driving a lot in the expansion process. We would drive from Myrtle Beach, SC to the Atlanta Metro area in Georgia. The one way drive was a short 6 hours. There were seasons where we drove this several times a week, leaving Myrtle Beach at 3:00 in the afternoon, driving to Georgia for a 1-2 hour meeting, and turning around and driving home. We had a LOT of time on the road. We had a LOT of time to talk.
Often on our 6 hour drive home, we were almost talked out. We had talked about everything and to stay awake, we began talking about our future children. We had already decided we wanted 4 children, and had already decided upon their names. Our drive consisted of imagining what they would be like, act like, look like, their personalities, their gifts, talents and abilities, how tall they would be, the color of their eyes, thickness of their hair, even down to who would be the one child who would like to snuggle the most. We began talking about, imagining and SEEING our children.
We began talking about, praying for, seeing, imagining our four children: Tyler, Trinity, Timothy & Taylor, in that order. Two boys, two girls. To this day, I’m still not sure why we believed them in the order of boy, girl, boy, girl, but we did. That is how we saw them. We talked about how Trinity would love to feed daddy. She would feed him bites of her food (and she did that starting at age 2 1/2), and when she was old enough she would make him sandwiches, carrying it in on a plate and beam with pride as daddy thanked her. She would love to serve daddy (and even her brothers), simultaneously this is also the love language of her dad, “acts of service.” From the book The Five Love Languages, this is one of the ways Tyler feels loved the most. Taylor on the other hand, wouldn’t be the serving type, but she would be the snuggler out of the four kids. She would love to be held, hugged and could just sit in your lap, loving you with her affection.
I could go on about all the things we talked about, but the bottom line is, WE TALKED and FAITH CAME! Faith comes by hearing! I HEARD my voice as I talked to Tyler, I heard my voice talk about our children, and I listened and HEARD as Tyler also talked about them, and we were in agreement (Matthew 18:19). As we SPOKE WORDS out of our mouth, FAITH CAME. Until, our kids took on themselves, years before they actually arrived. They began to take shape, because we spoke about and envisioned them. We talked about them like they were REAL and one by one, they have become the real, live, manifestation of what we spoke about.
I’ve heard many people say comments like, “Well, we’re just not like you and Tyler. It just doesn’t happen like that with everyone. My husband and I can’t just ‘pick out’ whether we want a boy or girl next.”
My thoughts behind that comment? Tyler and I simply spent a lot of time building our FAITH around who our kids were and who they would become, because we talked about it a lot. Sure, someone who just makes a decision, hopes for or wishes to have a “baby boy next,” may or may not have a boy. How real did that baby boy become? Did they see him? Talk about him? Envision him? See his characteristics and personality? My questions to them would be, DID FAITH REALLY COME? Did you talk about them so much, OUTLOUD, with your words that, as Romans 10:17 says, FAITH CAME.
Don’t get me wrong, why haven’t some of our other dreams and goals come to pass yet? I believe many still will, but why not yet? Well… I believe it is our responsibility to speak about, envision, see those goals becoming a reality. SPEAKING ABOUT them until FAITH COMES. Faith GIVES birth to a new, dreamed, reality!
When were our children born? Tyler Jr – 2009, Trinity Faith – 2011, Timothy Isaac Josiah – 2013, and last but not least, Taylor Liberty – 2015. Do you want to know when they were really born? It was on those drives during 2002, 2003, 2004, from Atlanta to Myrtle Beach, we spoke, we envisioned, we dreamed, we saw….. THAT WAS WHEN OUR CHILDREN WERE REALLY BORN.